We all have something we wish we were experts at. Some craft, sport, skill, fine art… something. We may dream about it, and even talk about it, but how often do we do anything to make it a reality? For the majority of us the answer is, Not that often. Why is that? Why do we think we can’t learn to do the things we really want to do? And why are we so afraid of practicing?
Have you ever watched a baby attempt to crawl or walk? That baby tries all sorts of angles, positions and movements to make that thing happen. They try and try, they cry and cry, and eventually they begin to move and crawl, stand and step… eventually it happens, eventually they do it, eventually they become master crawlers and walkers. They may get tired and frustrated, but they always go back to it. They don’t doubt that they are able to do it. They don’t give up.
At what point do we learn that we should give up? Where do we begin to believe that we can’t do things? Further, what makes us think we don’t have to put the time, effort, and resources into this thing that we want in order to achieve it?
Perhaps it began when you noticed some other kid picked it up on their first or second try and you still couldn’t get it after your fifth go round. Maybe somebody told you that it wasn’t for you. It’s possible that some adult made you feel like you just weren’t capable of much. Guess what? It’s not about anyone but yourself. You are the one carrying around this desire. You want it. In this case, it IS about you!
Sure, somebody else is naturally gifted in that area. So what? How does that stop you from putting in the effort to be good as well? Yes, people discouraged you. So what? You’re not doing this for them. They may one day benefit from your hard-earned skill, but their opinions on your abilities are none of your business.
Okay, you’re all psyched up and ready to get out there and do it! Then you remember how much time and energy it will take, how much frustration and seeming failure you will have to endure in order to get there, and you’re ready to throw in the towel all over again. Now is the true test. This is no longer about what he or she said, it’s now about what you are telling yourself. My suggestion? Be supportive of yourself. Encourage yourself. Look back and take note of the many successful ventures in your past. Recall all the lessons you’ve learned from past failures – yours and others. You can do this. You want to do this. You will do this. Go.
What is it that you’ve wanted to do, but didn’t believe you could? Let’s talk in the comments.
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