We truly are complex beings.

So many things are involved in making us who we are:

  • What we love
  • Who we love
  • What we like to do
  • What we want to become
  • What we don’t want to become
  • What we fear
  • What we dislike
  • What others say about us
  • What people say we are or could be
  • Who our parents/guardians told us we could or couldn’t be
  • How we’ve been treated
  • Situations we’ve been in
  • Genetics

to name just some.


As we move through life, all these things and more are compounded and we often become even more complex and as a result, confused.

Too rarely do we actually deal with the things in our lives in a way that allows us to learn from them while still moving on from them, so that we amass wisdom but leave the baggage behind.

I truly believe that we all want to move forward. Unfortunately, too often we feel stuck or just can’t figure out how. So we let our fears, insecurities, and people determine who we are today and who we will become.

We allow ourselves to be shaped by things and people that we know are not good for us. We stand still and listen to people put us down until we believe we are unworthy of anything good and then begin to live that way. We ignore those who see our talents and our strengths because we’re afraid to try and fail.

We’ve never wanted something badly enough that we’re willing to fail for it. We don’t yet know the value to be found in failing.

The question is: Is who you are right now who you want to be?

If not, you already own the solution to your problem.

It’s very likely that you’ve always known that those who were putting you down were not the best of people. Yet for some reason – maybe their success, skill, money, education – you looked up to them and respected them and their opinions… even more than your own.

Your solution?

  • You have to begin to value yourself.
  • You have to recognize how valuable you already are.
  • You have to start to believe those who consistently show you how much you have to contribute.
  • You have to let your work show you how good you are.
  • You have to realize that your friends are still your friends because they see what you cannot see. Ask them. They’ll tell you.
  • You have to pause, open your eyes, and really LOOK at yourself.

If you can see the good, the skill, the talent of another, then you have the ability to see it in yourself as well.

Do the work. You’ll be glad you did.

What do you think?

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