We’re finally on the last installment of this series. I really hope it has been of value to you. Let’s go ahead and wrap this up right.
Learn to say no
A simple “yes” and somehow you find yourself in an unrecognizable place, or worse, in an all too familiar place. What was meant to be a helpful “yes” led to a series of other yeses that led to… it.
It’s okay to say no.
When you can see further down the road than the person asking, it’s okay to say no.
When you’ve been there before, it’s okay to say no.
When your gut tells you that this is not the way to go, it’s okay to say no.
When you’re overwhelmed, it’s okay to say no.
When you just don’t feel like it, it’s okay to say no.
When you need time to think it over, it’s okay to say no.
“Yes” can sometimes mean new opportunity, true. The same is true of “No”. Don’t be guilted into a yes you know is bad for you. You’ve come too far. If it’s not for you, say “No”.
Apply the lessons learned
You’ve looked for the lessons. You’ve managed to be grateful for what they can teach you about yourself and others. You’ve checked yourself for the same and new mistakes. You’re sure that you’re not holding on to any expectation that is holding you back. Now, you’re ready to start saying “no” when it needs to be said.
What are you going to do with all this great information about yourself. Store it for future reference? No, you’re going to start applying it to your life.
Learning about yourself does no good if it changes nothing. Being able to see your mistakes and misguided expectations makes you insightful, but no better off. Saying “no” in the right situations helps, but it doesn’t solve every problem.
Here lies the real challenge – making the changes you’ve decided you need to make.
“You can’t spell challenge without change. If you’re going to rise to the challenge, you have to be prepared to change.” -Anonymous
Are you prepared to change?
I always look forward to hearing your thoughts on the matter. Leave a comment below.
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