We’ve been talking about the importance of developing the ability to let go of and move on from things and people in our lives. This is a process we have to go through multiple times because life involves constant change. Let’s keep digging.
Look at your life now and see if you are making the same mistakes, or acknowledge new ones
By now you should be used to questioning yourself – a lot. That never changes. This questioning has nothing to do with self-doubt; instead it has to do with self-awareness. Here’s yet another reason to question yourself.
All too often we make a mistake, figure out what the mistake was, try our best to fix it, and promise not to make it again… and then we do. Time passes, our fervor fades and we become complacent. This tends to happen when awareness lessens. We become less and less sensitive to this thing in our lives until it has once again reared it’s ugly head, and then we’re shocked.
We have to make time to check ourselves regularly. We need to actively look for those things that have caused us and others pain in the past and deal with them early. Keeping track of our lives in this way will also allow us to notice any new destructive behaviors or people before they become problems.
Search deeply to see if you have any lingering expectations
This requires brutal honesty. We don’t want to admit that we’re waiting on that one apology, or for that person to realize what they’ve lost, or to be compensated in the way we know we’re worth. Instead, we walk around throwing out phrases like “I don’t even care anymore”, “I’m done”, and “I’m soooo past that”. All lies. If we can’t be honest with ourselves, ‘stuck’ is the only place we’re headed.
Tell yourself the truth, the whole truth. Reveal your secret hopes, wishes, desires so you can deal with them. You can’t deal with what you won’t even admit. It’s okay. We all want to feel justified. The real question is, “Is that more important to you than your future, your everyday happiness, realizing your full potential?” I’m guessing the answer is “no” across the board.
As we focus on the things that are most important to us, the lesser things will decrease in significance. As we value ourselves more, we will focus less on the value others ascribe to us.
Hang in there with me. See you next week.